Amazingly enough, I have just now stumbled across this thread! Since it's drifted farther off course than the space shuttle in the movie "Airplane 2", let me throw some thoughts out there...Giia wrote:I have no idea if men encounter this problem with women they wish to date, but as a single 28 year old female - I sure find a lot of guys that run off after they find out I carry. These are not city-type fellows, at least they don't look like it. So I'm starting to wonder if it's a) me?, b) they are just anti-gun?, or c) something else?
And if the men I come across are so afraid of loaded guns, then I think we need a dating forum for CHL holders *lol*.
"I have no idea if men encounter this problem with women they wish to date..." - yep, if I were your age again it would certainly be a concern, but then again, I wouldn't (and I'm not suggesting you do!) make my gun ownership central to a relationship. It's a big issue and you might have the opportunity to open someone's eyes and/or convert them down the road. In the meanwhile, if things are acceptable otherwise, work up to it! Just like a guy, involve them in things that you enjoy - get them to expand their horizons as the relationship builds.
a) "Is it me?" - I seriously doubt it, but it may depend on how and when you let it be known. On an initial or subsequent date you are in a position more common to the male denizens of these forums, with the accompanying concerns.
b) "Are they anti-gun?" - It could be. Again, how and when does it come up? It could be that they are turned off (or intimidated by) a self-assured, attractive woman like yourself. It could be that, like a lot of people, they are uninformed about guns and gun owners. Then again, it could also be that you haven't laid the appropriate foundation, when, on the first date, you blurt out that you carry the S&W 500 Magnum for maximum takedown power.
c) "Is it something else?" - You're in the best position to know that. Again, I'm not suggesting you do this, but if any of us lays out on the first or second date that any particular issue is central to our being - the other person had better not care or be in agreement - otherwise... poof!
There are plenty of guys, city and country, who would like to get to know you better. Just as you, their lives are not gun-centric. My suggestion is that you take part in church activities, sports activities, gun activities, etc. - but you never know where you'll meet that someone REAL special.
More involvement means more exposure, and more exposure means more opportunities!
I expect an invitation to the wedding.